Things got even worse when
in 2009 when I purchased a piece of property for my law firm that I could not afford. Then the financial struggles really began.
For years, my life
totally sucked. I mean really sucked beyond measure. I worked 10+ hour days but I was still broke. I was miserable, insolvent and was desperately unhappy. I had problems with my health, problems with the Law Society, and a shattered home life.
I just did not understand why so much of my life was not working.
For things to change, I had to change
Because I am someone who takes responsibility, I read a ton of business books, took marketing training, hired a business coach, and learned about running a profitable business. I dove deep into personal development, and commenced a dedicated spiritual practice. In short, I began to learn how to run a family law practice and not suffer lawyer stress.
However, despite my spiritual practice and disciplines, I was also still anxious and overwhelmed a lot of the time. As a result, I also self-medicated.
A lawyer I know reported to my Law Society that I was “taking illegal drugs” and drinking tequila all day long at work. The allegations were absolute nonsense of course. I must be present and at my absolute BEST for my clients when doing client work, so no tequila (or illegal drugs, duh) on the job!
Because of the completely unfounded and frankly despicable allegation that I was taking drugs and drinking at work, someone recommended I see an ADHD specialist so I could get assessed. I took their advice. I not only thought it would help my case with the Law Society, but I wanted to understand what else was going on with me.
In late 2020 the ADHD specialist I saw said I had ADHD and it was “off the charts.” He has prescribed specific medication and it has been life-changing!
Re-discovering myself as a human being and a passionate family lawyer
The ADHD specialist also said I was an anomaly because I had great coping skills. So a lot of my life was actually working well! 🥳
This included other things such as all the developing business skills, my spiritual practice, and the personal development stuff I was learning.
Even with my undiagnosed and untreated ADHD, I successfully created a multiple 6- Figure Law Practice. The problem was, prior to my diagnosis, I still appeared and often felt overwhelmed and anxious. So much felt like a struggle.
I run my business ethically and without gouging my clients. Being a great family law lawyer is about more than knowing the law and being a great advocate (although that is important too). It is about making your entire practice run smoothly.
A successful law practice is about having structures and systems that enable us to have satisfied and happy clients, every time.
And another thing, I do not fit the “usual” stereotype of being a lawyer. Think of the show called “Suits” and that is definitely not me. I dress very casually whenever I can.
I know I don’t fit the model of what people think a lawyer should act like or look like (thank gawd for that!). Maybe you are like that too.😀