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The Grow Your Family Law Practice blog provides education and resources for divorce lawyers who may be experiencing stress about growing their practice while leading a balanced, healthy personal life.

Dec 06, 2022

What does it mean to you to be a great lawyer?

By Val Hemminger, Divorce LawyerConnecting and honouring your clients and their changing families

If being a great lawyer is…

✨ connecting and honouring your clients and their changing families
✨ billing your clients fairly and transparently
✨ getting great results for your clients
✨ keeping families and their children out of the combat zone whenever possible.

Then I am glad you are great at what you do!

Your next action could be a sliding doors moment!

I have many tools and resources that are going to support you along this path. You can get exploring and discover how ways that it is possible for you to get going by visiting my Be The Best Divorce Lawyer and explore how to make the shift you know you need to make!

Best. Val 😀

Nov 29, 2022

Are you making the same marketing mistake that almost every other lawyer makes?

By Val Hemminger, Divorce LawyerThe kind of marketing and branding where lawyers do the same as everyone else is doing is a colossal waste of resources.

Most lawyers 𝐃𝐎 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐆𝐄𝐓 that different is better than being better. Instead, most lawyers do exactly what I did when I first opened up my own practice.

🤦‍♀️ I did the same type of marketing as everyone else. 🤦‍♀️

I had marble signs, and columns in my yellow-pages ad (oh yeah, back then everyone advertised in the yellow pages too. You essentially had to out pay the next guy in order to get a good position amongst the hundreds of lawyer ads).

I joined the other lawyers who looked exactly the same as each other. Think scales of justice, stuffy-looking law libraries, pillars of parliament, business suits, and city skylines. In their advertising, most lawyers effectively drown themselves among images and messages that look the same as what everyone else is doing. They spend money on looking like a goldfish in a sea of thousands of goldfish. You get the idea.

The kind of marketing and branding where lawyers do the same as everyone else is doing is . .

𝘈 𝘊𝘖𝘓𝘖𝘚𝘚𝘈𝘓 𝘞𝘈𝘚𝘛𝘌 𝘖𝘍 𝘠𝘖𝘜𝘙 𝘙𝘌𝘚𝘖𝘜𝘙𝘊𝘌𝘚

Don’t waste your resources, whether that be your time, your effort, your money or all three.

Don’t waste resources by BEING the same as everyone else.

BE different.

What makes you different and how can you put that into your marketing efforts?

Your next action could be a sliding doors moment!

I have many tools and resources that are going to support you along this path. You can get exploring and discover how ways that it is possible for you to get going by visiting my Be The Best Divorce Lawyer and explore how to make the shift you know you need to make!

Best. Val 😀

Nov 22, 2022

Being Weird!

By Val Hemminger, Divorce LawyerWhen you show what makes you weird, unique, yourself, your clients and others connect with you more because they see you as a real person

“𝑩𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇. 𝑬𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒆𝒍𝒔𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒂𝒌𝒆𝒏.” - 𝗢𝘀𝗰𝗮𝗿 𝗪𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗲

For the love of PETE, don’t tamp down your weirdness!

When you show what makes you weird, unique, yourself, your clients and others connect with you more because they see you as a real person.

So, before you start conforming too much, to fit in, be like other lawyers, remember that being the you, that one you, is a great thing.

This is why you want to be your weird self:

Because although there are ideas about what is “normal,” being normal does not really exist. We are all weird in some way.Being your weird self makes you more memorable to your clients and colleagues.Hiding our true selves is not only a lot of work, but makes us less happy. There is nothing more compelling than when someone is being genuine. Your clients, other lawyers, judges, and your friends know when you are being genuine, both on a conscious and subconscious level.

Be you.

Your next action could be a sliding doors moment!

I have many tools and resources that are going to support you along this path. You can get exploring and discover how ways that it is possible for you to get going by visiting my Be The Best Divorce Lawyer and explore how to make the shift you know you need to make!

Best. Val 😀

Nov 15, 2022

Create the Life of Your Dreams by Using a Manifestation Method that works!

By Val Hemminger, Divorce LawyerNot only have the things I wanted to create in my life started happening, they are happening at a greater and greater speed!

I started getting serious about manifesting my dreams in late 2018. I am blown away by how much has materialized. 😮 It is so exciting! 🤗✨

I use an uber-simple 3-step process:

1️⃣ Write down all the things I want to manifest.

2️⃣ Download a timer app that repeats for 30-second intervals, with a sound notification telling you that 30 seconds have elapsed and then this repeats 40 times.

3️⃣ I then use a timer app and focus on one thing on my list for 30 seconds. I feel how it feels to have manifested that great thing. I enjoy it as if it has already happened. I do that process for 20 minutes (40 manifestations) three to five days per week).

This process has also raised my frequency!

Not only have the things I wanted to create in my life started happening, they are happening at a greater and greater speed!

I have manifested the following things that were, at one time, pure pipe dreams!

◼ I found a fun way to do strength training at home
◼ I have balanced financial circumstances allowing me to be in expanded services
◼ I got refinance which cleared up all my old money mistakes and this has been life-changing!
◼ I have the freedom to travel - I have taken 2 great road trips to East Kootenays, a strip to Miami, a trip to Austin, and going to Chicago VERY SOON
◼ I get to walk in the woods almost every day.
◼ I have created a community of like-minded forward-thinking lawyers where I could guide them to success for the betterment of families everywhere (the Be the Best Divorce Lawyer Academy)

What have you manifested in your life that seemed like a pipe dream at one point?

What else do you want to create?

Your next action could be a sliding doors moment!

I have many tools and resources that are going to support you along this path. You can get exploring and discover how ways that it is possible for you to get going by visiting my Be The Best Divorce Lawyer and explore how to make the shift you know you need to make!

Best. Val 😀

Nov 08, 2022

Are you too overwhelmed to focus on your business’ success?

By Val Hemminger, Divorce LawyerThere is a reason why McDonald’s a Kabajillion dollar company is run in large part by teenagers. It is because McDonald’s is a business and it is run like a business.

A lot of lawyers I know are failing at keeping on top of everything. That is because they are so busy with their client files, they are failing at running their business in a profitable way.

When I've spoken to other lawyers about running their practices like a business, often they say…



❌ I've got so many things on the go who has got time for that?!
❌ I can’t put those checklists into place or keep track of those numbers.
❌ I just don't have the time

❌ That all sounds fine and good, but who's got the time?

There is a reason why McDonald’s a Kabajillion dollar company is run in large part by teenagers. It is because McDonald’s is a business and it is run like a business.

Let me ask you:

Where will your practice be one year, five years, ten years from now…. if you don’t take some steps towards streamlining your practice?

If you take that half-hour or one hour a week?

When you run your law practice with solid business principles in mind, it makes you exceptionally efficient, which in turn not only benefits not your finances, but also your...

✔️Mental health…
✔️The health of your family
✔️Your relationships
✔️Your friendships
✔️Your physical health

Your next action could be a sliding doors moment!

I have many tools and resources that are going to support you along this path. You can get exploring and discover how ways that it is possible for you to get going by visiting my Be The Best Divorce Lawyer and explore how to make the shift you know you need to make!

Best. Val 😀

Nov 01, 2022

Are you not normal?

By Val Hemminger, Divorce LawyerRegaining the strength to assert your difference,with sincerity and vulnerability, will liberate you

What is not “normal” about you?

Fitting in and conforming to what we think everyone else expects, is a strategy so many of us learn not only in our home environments from the time we are small children but as soon as we start school. 

As lawyers, we know all about conformity. We did the required studying to “succeed” and get into law school. We did what our teachers told us to do and did well enough on our exams to become lawyers.

The problem is, we are so used to conforming to what we think we should be doing, we may have lost touch with ourselves.

In reality, everyone is unique, and we all have some weird in us. 

Let’s regain the strength to assert our differences and expand what is possible, not only for us, but our families, and our clients. 

Regaining the strength to assert your difference, with #sincerity and #vulnerability, will liberate you and push back the limits of what you believe possible.

Are you ready?

Your next action could be a sliding doors moment!

I have many tools and resources that are going to support you along this path. You can get exploring and discover how ways that it is possible for you to get going by visiting my Be The Best Divorce Lawyer and explore how to make the shift you know you need to make!

Best. Val 😀

Oct 25, 2022

Are you paying attention?

By Val Hemminger, Divorce LawyerIf you don't know your numbers you are not running a business

🤦‍♀️🤯 I will never forget the day when I walked by my legal assistant's vehicle.

“I can’t afford a nice new vehicle like that”, I thought to myself.

The previous year, my little law firm brought in $1,200,000. But I only made $77,000. Associate lawyers and my staff were not only making more money than I was, but they were working way less ours.

What the?!

So, I made the painful decision to start paying attention not only to my revenues, but expenditures. I discovered some very painful things.

I discovered painful things such as:

  • A trusted staff person was using my law firm’s credit card to do their personal Amazon shopping.
  • I was paying for software I was not using.
  • A staff member was charging me for overtime hours, hours they were not working.
  • I was paying for an outdated server (literally thousands of dollars per month) for no reason.

Now, I would love to blame someone else for what had been happening, and the truth was:

I didn’t have my hand on…

❌ Where my business was, at all times
❌ Where the leaks were
❌ The amount of responsibility I gave to staff without checking in from time to time
❌ The importance of my numbers.

If you do not know your numbers, you are NOT running a business.

You are probably running a very expensive hobby, and not a fun hobby either.

Do you know your numbers?

Your next action could be a sliding doors moment!

I have many tools and resources that are going to support you along this path. You can get exploring and discover how ways that it is possible for you to get going by visiting my Be The Best Divorce Lawyer and explore how to make the shift you know you need to make!

Best. Val 😀

Oct 23, 2022

Working hard is what’s keeping you stuck and broke…

By Val Hemminger, Divorce LawyerUnhappy divorce lawyer digging a hole

The very fact that you are here says that you are no stranger to working hard.

You already know this about yourself.

In fact, as you are reading this, maybe you are recalling all the times you missed out on lots of fun things because you were working hard, being a great student so you could achieve your dream of becoming a lawyer.

So, you missed out on partying with friends, having delicious sleep-ins, or binge watching Harry Potter.

So how did working hard work out for you?

You worked hard enough to reach your goal of becoming a lawyer.You worked hard and got good enough grades in your undergrad to get into law school.You worked hard enough to get through law school.You worked hard enough to pass your bar exam.Working hard WAS a great strategy.

However! Working hard is not the strategy to have if you want a successful life and divorce law practice!

Working hard is a broken strategy if you want to succeed in the practice of law. It is an even more broken strategy if you want to succeed in having a life worth living.

In order to succeed, you have to be strategic about running your law practice and life.

What strategies do you employ for your law practice and life’s success?

Your next action could be a sliding doors moment!

I have many tools and resources that are going to support you along this path. You can get exploring and discover how ways that it is possible for you to get going by visiting my Be The Best Divorce Lawyer and explore how to make the shift you know you need to make!

Best. Val 😀

Sep 28, 2022

Do You Have A Disorganized Family Law Practice?

By Val Hemminger, Divorce LawyerIMAGE Alt Text

As lawyers, while some things in our work are simply impossible to foresee because we have curve balls thrown at us a LOT, much of what happens in our law practices happens over and over and over again.

Your key to your successful law practice (aka not looking stupid, not going broke, not falling flat on your face, and not having huge struggles and stress) is to reduce the number of surprises and unpredictability in your law practice.

How do you reduce the number of surprises?

First, you systematize everything that is predictable. This involves creating and using checklists, templates and protocols for everyday tasks, which will allow you (and hopefully your team) to handle routine matters quickly and efficiently.

If you are like me, you find it tremendously dull to think about systems, checklists, precedents and templates. And yet, the very fact that I did this for my practice has created unimaginable freedom in my life.

So, even though I am known as a Westshore (British Columbia) lawyer, I can practice anywhere with an internet connection.

When the routine is locked in and taken care of, you can focus on the exceptional:

  • the exceptional aspects of your work
  • the exceptional aspects of your personal life,
  • the exceptional aspects of your relationships,
and everything else that is exceptional. Think about what this could mean!

Your next action could be a sliding doors moment!

I have many tools and resources that are going to support you along this path. You can get exploring and discover how ways that it is possible for you to get going by visiting my Be The Best Divorce Lawyer and explore how to make the shift you know you need to make!

Best. Val 😀

Sep 25, 2022

Personal Mentoring For Divorce Lawyers To Grow The Family Law Practice

Val Hemminger 's Personal Mentoring is based on her proven B.E.S.T program. 10 sessions will help you grow your family law practice and support your clients

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Sep 13, 2022

Strategies for Family Law Marketing Without Blowing Your Budget!

Family law marketing doesn't have to be complicated or time consuming. These key strategies support you to grow your divorce attorney practice without burning cash!

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Sep 07, 2022

About Val Hemminger; Divorce Lawyer Mentor

Val Hemminger educates professionals experiencing divorce lawyer stress. This is her personal journey from overwhelm and failure to mentor and coach

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Sep 02, 2022

The family law industry is profoundly broken

Let's face it, the family law industry is profoundly broken.

Instead of what goes on now, can you imagine how things would be if lawyers showed up as guides to guide a family through their separation?

Why would they do that? Because they're still a family!! Sure, that family looks different than they expected - but they are still a family.

If we, as divorce lawyers, showed up as...

  • less combative
  • more grounded
  • more in service
  • more organized
  • less stressed

...and were able to show up in a way that guided our clients to the next part of their lives without causing more damage...
wouldn't that be amazing for generations of children?

Want to start making a change? I suggest you start at Be The Best Divorce Lawyer

Best. Val 😀

Aug 24, 2022

Do you fit into the divorce lawyer stereotype?

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Do you fit into the lawyer stereotype?

When I started my first law job. I thought, “how am I ever going to fit into this profession?” I worked in a traditional “old boy” law firm and although I learned a lot while there, I was not destined to work there long-term.

Thank goodness for that! It would have actually killed me.

Here’s why!

Many assume that lawyers are:

  • Methodical
  • Risk-averse
  • Always looking for hidden problems
  • Conservative
  • Arrogant
  • Organized
  • Detail-oriented
  • Logical
  • Narrow-minded
  • Slightly neurotic
  • Stressed
  • Square
  • Loaded
But you and I know that isn't always true. In fact my personality is completely the opposite which meant that I could NEVER belong in a "traditional" law firm..

Our legal profession is changing and thank crikey for that! Are you part of that change?

Do you feel out of the “normal” legal world or are you aching for change in your life?

If so, you are in the right place. I invite you to have a good look around this powerful resource for divorce lawyers growing their family law practice. And particularly for those who just can't continue putting the effort in and getting the same old results.

I suggest you start at Be The Best Divorce Lawyer

Best. Val 😀