IF YOU WANT TO BE THE BEST DIVORCE LAWYER . . .
How to Make Your Divorce Lawyer Career Successful The Lululemon Way:
I read somewhere that we should all have a personal manifesto. Then I had to look up exactly what that meant. This is what I found out.
A personal manifesto inspires us to live in alignment with our values.
It serves as a guidepost for what we want to achieve in our lives each day. It reflects our values.
It is to what we aspire, not necessarily what we always achieve.
The Art of Manliness website defines a manifesto as a declaration of one's beliefs, opinions, motives, and intentions. It is simply a document that an organization or person writes that declares what is important to them. A manifesto functions as both a statement of principles and a bold, sometimes rebellious, call to action.
There are some great manifestos out there that are not only inspiring but gutsy.
I always think the Lululemon manifesto is a huge reason for its growth.
I have taken a stab at drafting my personal manifesto. I did not realize how intensely personal this exercise would be until I got started.
Personal Manifesto of a Divorce Lawyer - Val's Draft:
- Continually improve by being loving, compassionate and in service with my work, not only to my clients, but to other lawyers, especially when I find them difficult.
- Being in service includes no complaining, judging, or blaming.
- I am ultimately responsible for my own life. If I am failing at something, I must look at myself.
- When I am in conflict or feeling judgmental, always ask, what is bothering me so that I would feel judgment?
- Connect with and champion the best in others.
- Create something everyday if I can. Make it a priority.
- Think and do connection everywhere. Connecting at the grocery store line up counts.
- Act like a leader in everything I do.
- When I fall, get back up again.
- Accept that I am not as skinny or financially stable as I had hoped by now and that is okay, it is all part of my journey.
- Stop waiting for life to get better, make it better everyday anyways.
- Forgiveness is a process, not a decision.
- Always learn something new.
- Practice gratitude. It is also a process and not a decision.
- Know that everything changes and ends.
- Accept that pain is part of life and that is okay.
- Embrace others the way I have been taught, the way my Mom, Elma Hemminger did.
- When I am feeling afraid, defensive, or upset at someone, remember that it is probably my ego. The ego is not real and its job is to keep me from seeing the truth. Love and compassion help me see the truth. Do my job with my heart.
- Being a divorce lawyer is hard work, accept that as true and do the work.
- Never waste a trip.
- My staff are my best asset. Honour them deeply.
What does your
draft manifesto look like?
By Val Hemminger, divorce lawyer
Val has created this website to share with her colleagues. She is not suggesting, by any means, that she is the best divorce lawyer out there. She is, however, suggesting that she is the best divorce lawyer that she herself can be. Feel free to share anything you find useful.