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The 5 am Club

Joining the 5 am club is, in my view, the single most powerful thing a person can do to take charge of their life. 

Oh sure, I used to drag myself out of bed at 7 or 7:30 am and rush around to get ready for my work day. I would arrive at work, a bit harried and spent, but on time nonetheless. I have always had a good work ethic, so this has been fine. It was just, fine, however. It was not more than fine.

I would then be pushing through my work day, only to arrive home 9 to 11 hours later totally spent. I would collapse as soon as arriving home.At the end of my work day, It seems as though I have nothing left. Oh, sure I read to our daughter and watch a short show, but there was certainly no creative energy left of any sort. 

As lawyers, we have a busy life. It is so easy to get knocked off our game in terms of what we want to accomplish in any given day, month, season or year. 

For many of us, however, it is easy to say to ourselves that we do not have the time and do not have the energy to live our best lives. We are way too busy simply getting through our very busy days. Most of us get so tied up in the daily grind. We have so much on our plate already dealing with our jobs, our kids, our clients, and our staff. 

So, many of us just give up. We simply struggle through on survival mode hoping that we will relax, grow, contribute and be happy on our next vacation or when we hit retirement.

Throw some addiction issues in there or sheer tiredness, and it is easy to lose track. Although it is totally depressing to admit, I totally lost track of where I was going for more than ten years at one point.  Yes, ten years. I try not to be totally and completely depressed at that thought.

I was simply rushing from one task to the next without any thought to service, growth or working towards anything. 

The 5 am Club:

In comes, the rising at 5 am.

Because it is easy for me to get knocked off my game, joining the 5 am club is the one surefire way to get back on it.

The thing is, that by the time I get home from work I am toast. I feel shattered. I do not have the ability sometimes to string an intelligent sentence together. I certainly am not in a position to think about my life’s goals, about how I am in service to humankind or anything like that. 

Forget about a spiritual path, all I can think of is how to get through the evening sometimes without snapping at my family.

What if we are not.....well, superhuman? 

We have our jobs, our kids, and our various habits; therefore, we can lose track of the whole thing about living life right. We certainly didn't read and learn from Mr. Money Moustache early enough in our working lives. So we work a lot and end up tired. Joining the ranks of the 5 am club is a great way to tackle these challenges. 

The Biggest Game Changer:

The biggest game changer in terms of living life right is waking up at 5:00 am. 

I know it is early. 

I originally learned this 5 am club idea from Robin Sharma. I am a huge fan of Robin Sharma. He has as written books like:  The Leader Who Had No Title: A Modern Fable on Real Success in Business and Life and The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari: A Spiritual Fable About Fulfilling Your Dreams and Reaching Your Destiny.

Sharma is this overwhelmingly positive and healthy guy who seems so totally in charge of his life. He travels a lot, looks great all the time, and is full of energy.

The neat thing is that he started his career as a disgruntled, unhappy, out of shape, stressed out lawyer. I know, it sounds really familiar.

We admire (and perhaps feel jealousy towards) people who are healthy, happy, creative and full of energy. Sharma is one of those people who just seems to have it all together. 

What about those of us who don't have it all figured out in terms of living life right?

Sharma talks about game changers in life. He says that certain habits, once incorporated, will totally change the game of your life and launch you into a new stratosphere of health, happiness, and living life right.

Sharma’s number one game changer is what he calls the 5 am Club (of course he starts his day at 4:00 or 4:30, but he is like that). 

He suggests we use this time for meditation, planning our day with purpose, and exercising. 

Now I know for many people, even getting up at 6:00 am isn't their thing.

So, while I have been an early riser from time to time throughout my life, I got back on the 5 am club train. This habit has been going on again for over a year now. Whoa, what a difference. 

For example, as I write this, it is 6:44 am. I am wide awake, content, and energized.

3 Awesome Things I Have Noticed Since Rising at 5am:

Since rising at 5:00 am, I have noticed some awesome things:

1. I have noticed I am way happier;

2. I get more work done towards my non-lawyer like goals, like writing;

3. My life feels like it is going in the right direction.

It's because we spent our most productive time with our most productive brain.

I read this article (for the life of me I can't find it again) about a guy who joined the 4:30 am Club (yeah, even a bit early for me). What he noticed when he did so was the productive hours of his day shifted. He said that living with others as he did (as many of us do), getting up early allowed him to have peaceful time and productive time before the rest of the world got up around him. 

So, what he found when he got home from work in the afternoon or evening, was that he would simply watch movies, or surf social media....that kind of thing. He was not productive. When he shifted his free time to the morning hours, he was able to learn by reading interesting stuff, and working on creating projects that were important to him; thus making himself much happier. 

This article by Val Hemminger, divorce lawyer, and owner of Hemminger Law Group Westshore Law Corporation after she got up at 5:00 am in the morning.           

Val has created this website to share with her colleagues. She  is not suggesting, by any means, that she is the best divorce lawyer out there. She is, however, suggesting that she is the best divorce lawyer that she herself can be. Feel free to share anything you find useful.